About the Geek as a Step Dad

The Geek helped raise his son from age 3 to age 9, when his mom and the Geek split ways. He continues to stay in the sons life (he’s 13 this year) and talk and visit with him as often as possible. Even though not biologically his, he gets called Dad and he calls him Son. Son has Aspergers and the Geek has consequently done a lot of reading on raising children with special needs.

The Geek was also married to a woman who had 3 children, from teen to pre teen, 2 boys and a girl. The Geek struggled with the oldest boy and that relationship remained strained. The Geek did bond very closely with the other two children, however, and learned the importance of patience and family time.

While that relationship ended and things became strained he learned a lot about what it takes to be a step-dad.

His goal is to share his experience and learned lessons with others who may be struggling so they can have a better relationship with their children AND their wives and be happier overall.

The Geek is also a huge geek and is proud when his son quotes Weird Al or Star Wars word for word.

8 thoughts on “About the Geek as a Step Dad

      1. sueannporter1

        yes. I had him in Christian school, grades 4 – 11..but worked with the local school district, quacks, and other empty suits.
        As it all turns out, I am glad he was in Christian school instead of “special ed” as he had scriptures drummed into him that are there FOREVER. And he doesn’t play the “victim” (well sometimes) which I don’t want him to do. At this point, he has a part time job, drives, and will have assistance at college for school work etc.
        That was one of my “whys” to God. Why didn’t he get diagnosed sooner. But the answer was he needed to be in Christian school (smaller classes anyway) — so I will go forward. It worked out ok, but yes, it was a frustrating decade!

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        1. Good Geek Ranting Post author

          I understand, my son had so many different diagnosis throughout the years and was put on so many different meds. It made it very hard to keep him stable. I understand totally. I’m sure he’s gonna be great, sounds like he’s got a good support system at home. Keep it up!

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  1. Grass Oil by Molly Field

    you’ve given me yet one more reason to admire you.

    my nephew has autism. i have said since before his diagnosis was confirmed that it doesn’t define him; it helps refine him. there are moments that i know are difficult for his family and i sense my own challenges with him *sometimes* but all in all, this is a child who sees things the way he is able — no different than the rest of us — and I would be ABSOLUTELY lying if i ever said i wasn’t envious of his ability to just tell it like it is. he is almost 10. when he is done, he says, “this is not for me, i’m going to read a book.” when something happens that he thinks is incorrect or off, he says, “that was dumb.” and when people say things that don’t make sense or that he knows are untrue he says, “that’s not true.” what will he do in life? what will be become? i don’t know. who knows what any of our children will become. but i know he is loved because i love him, and i know he is truthful because he doesn’t have the interest in lying. cunning? no. clever? yes.

    my son, almost 9 (aka “Thing 3 / T3”), knows “Napoleon Dynamite” by heart; he also knows some of the greatest lines from “Star Wars.” i’ve always thought he is slightly on the spectrum but those whose children are on the spectrum tell me no. he gets along beautifully with my nephew – he “gets” him. T3 might not be on the spectrum, but he’s in his own little world, a place of glorious Geekdom, and i am jealous.

    Geeks are Good. -m

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  2. magnuswendler

    Good to come across your blog and read this about parenting. I have some experience with Asperger syndrome, though not as a parent. I have no children at this point. I’ve read some about Asperger syndrome, not so much about parenting and special needs but it sounds like you put a lot of effort into what you do which is pretty awesome!

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  3. Notes From The Backseat

    It’s a good thing you do for your son. I have Aspergers and my daughter has autism. I can tell you the importance of having a dad who loves you. My step-dad was a Hutt. And that’s being nice. Being a step-parent takes a lot of work, but it sounds like you’re doing a good job with your son.

    I think every parent should be proud when their kid quotes Star Wars.

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